Top 10 Keys to Workplace Interpersonal Relationships
10 Tips on How to Handle Interpersonal Relationships
One: A Distinguished Appearance
The so-called "one distinguished appearance" refers to the first impression you leave on others when you meet a stranger for the first time. We all know that the first impression is crucial. You need to make a good impression, and most importantly, let the other person remember you in the shortest time possible. Therefore, our own appearance and demeanor are very important; we must pay attention to our inner qualities and cultivation, and these are not formed overnight. It requires us to develop good habits in our daily lives.
Two: Two Sets of Attire
The so-called "two sets of attire" means that you should wear appropriate clothes for different occasions. Your dress should suit the environment. "Two sets of attire" also tells us to be adaptable and flexible in our actions, not to be rigid and inflexible.
Three: Three Cups of Alcohol Tolerance
The so-called "three cups of alcohol tolerance" means that if a person doesn't drink, it's not easy to handle interpersonal relationships well. A person should know how to drink, but not too much. Moderate drinking can bring people closer, but excessive drinking can lead to "improper behavior after drinking." Moderate drinking is beneficial for both health and interpersonal relationships.
Four: Four Rounds of Mahjong
The so-called "four rounds of mahjong" means that a person should have a wide range of interests. You should talk to different people in different ways and do different things. You should also know how to play the games they play and understand the things they like, but you don't have to be an expert. For example, if someone talks to you about the latest sports news, but you don't like sports and don't follow it, you will be at a loss when they bring it up. This is also called "casting a long line to catch a big fish."
Five: Friends from All Directions
The so-called "five friends from all directions" means that you should not be exclusive about making friends in all directions ("east, south, west, north, and center"). You never know what kind of friends you will need. You should have your own standard for how deep your relationships with different people should be, but you should not exclude the possibility of befriending them.
Six: Six Expeditions to Qishan
We all know that "six expeditions to Qishan" refers to Zhuge Liang's six northern expeditions against the state of Wei, knowing it was an impossible task but doing it anyway. The so-called "six expeditions to Qishan" means that when we make a promise to someone, even if we cannot fulfill it, we must try our best. It requires us to only ask "should I do this?" and less "is it possible?" We must know that nothing is impossible in this world.
Seven: Seven Flattery Techniques
"Shu" means methods and different techniques; "da ma" means to flatter. "Seven flattery techniques" means that in front of others, you should praise your boss's decisions, but behind his back, you should privately point out the flaws. This means 70% flattery and 30% sincere advice.
Eight: Eighteen Exaggerations
The so-called "eighteen exaggerations" means that if a person doesn't "brag," people won't know what you have accomplished. But if a person brags too much, everyone will lose trust in you. Therefore, it's okay to slightly exaggerate your own contributions, but it's not good to over-inflate your abilities. When a person talks about others, appropriately exaggerating others is a way to exaggerate oneself. When two people go out to do something and come back to report to their superior, when I talk, I brag about him, and when he talks, he brags about me. Then both of us are magnified. So, a person needs to "brag." Relationships have a public and a private side; people need to praise each other, and credit is pushed back and forth.
Nine: Nine-Tenths Effort
The so-called "nine-tenths effort" requires us to be hardworking, bear hardships and stand hard work, work hard, study hard, and improve our abilities.
Ten: Ten-Tenths Patience
The so-called "ten-tenths patience" requires a person to have the ability to endure and be patient. If a person has no patience, then the first nine points, no matter how well they are done, are equal to zero.