MY HUSBAND AND I WERE FRIENDS, AND HE WAS A SOLDIER, AND HE CAME TO OUR PLACE IN HUNAN; REMEMBERING THAT HE HAD MADE ME A SUGAR RAISIN FOR THE FIRST TIME IN THE ARMY, WHICH WAS SO BAD, A LITTLE SALTY, A LITTLE BITTER, BUT I SAW THE LOOK HE WAS LOOKING FOR, SAID IT WAS GOOD, HE LAUGHED AS A CHILD, AND MY HEART WARMED; THEN I KNEW THAT HE HAD LEARNED THIS FOR ME BECAUSE I LIKED IT, BECAUSE I LIKED IT, AND THEN I THOUGHT THAT HE KNEW THAT AFTER WE GOT MARRIED THAT THEY DIDN'T EAT SUGAR OR CHILI, AND THAT HE COULD COOK FOR ME AND THE BABY, THOUGH IT WAS NOT EASY; I STILL WOULDN'T EAT ANY MORE PEPPER, BUT I'D LIKE TO EAT MORE PEPPER; NOW I LEARNED TO PICK UP PEPPER AND MAKE PEPPER FOR MY HUSBAND'S LEAVE. INSTEAD OF TRYING TO CHANGE EACH OTHER, COUPLES TRY TO CHANGE THEMSELVES; HOPING THAT IN THE DAYS AHEAD WE'LL BE AS FLAT AS EVER, ONE EYE, ONE SMILE, ONE ENCOURAGEMENT TO EACH OTHER, THAT'S HAPPINESS; TOGETHER WE'LL GROW OLD AND INTERDEPENDENT